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In modern society there is a great deal of argument about competition. Some value it highly, believing
that it is responsible for social progress and prosperity. Others say that competition is bad; that it sets one
person against another; that it leads to unfriendly relationship between people.
I have taught many children who held the belief that their self-worth relied (依赖) on how well they
performed at tennis and other skills. For them, playing well and winning are often life-and-death affairs.
In their single-minded pursuit (追求) of success, the development of many other human qualities is sadly
forgotten.
However, while some seem to be lost in the desire to succeed, others take an opposite attitude. In a
culture which values only the winner and pays no attention to the ordinary players, they strongly blame
competition. Among the most vocal are youngsters who have suffered under competitive pressures from
their parents or society. Teaching these young people, I often observe in them a desire to fail. They seem
to seek failure by not trying to win or achieve success. By not trying, they always have an excuse: " I may
have lost, but it doesn't matter because I really didn't try." What is not usually admitted by themselves is the
belief that if they had really tried and lost, that would mean a lot. Such a loss would be a measure of their
worth. Clearly, this belief is the same as that of true competitors who try to prove themselves. Both are
based on the mistaken belief that one's self-respect relies on how well one performs in comparison with
others. Both are afraid of not being… Only as this basic and often troublesome fear begins to dissolve (缓解)

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In modern society there is a great deal of argument about competition. Some value it highly, believing that it is responsible for social progress and prosperity. Others say that competition is bad; that it sets one person against another; that it leads to unfriendly relationship between people. 在现代社会中有许多关于竞争的争论。有的人非常重视它，认为它有益于社会的进步和繁荣。还有的人认为竞争是坏的；它使一个人对另一个；它导致人与人之间的不友好的关系。
I have taught many children who held the belief that their self-worth relied (依赖) on how well they performed at tennis and other skills. For them, playing well and winning are often life-and-death affairs. In their single-minded pursuit (追求) of success, the development of many other human qualities is sadly forgotten. 我教过许多孩子认为他们的自我价值在于（依赖）如何以及他们在网球和其他技能。对他们来说，打好并赢得往往是生与死的事情。他们一心一意追求（追求）的成功，许多其他人的素质发展是可悲的遗忘。
However, while some seem to be lost in the desire to succeed, others take an opposite attitude. In a culture which values only the winner and pays no attention to the ordinary players, they strongly blame competition. Among the most vocal are youngsters who have suffered under competitive pressures fromtheir parents or society. Teaching these young people, I often observe in them a desire to fail. They seem to seek failure by not trying to win or achieve success.然而，有些人似乎丧失了对成功的渴望，另一些则采取相反的态度。在价值只赢家文化和不注意的普通玩家，他们强烈谴责竞争。其中最直言不讳的人遭受了竞争的压力，从他们的父母或社会下的年轻人。教这些年轻人，我经常在观察他们渴望失败。他们似乎寻求失败不试图赢得或获得成功。
By not trying, they always have an excuse: " I may have lost, but it doesn't matter because I really didn't try." What is not usually admitted by themselves is thebelief that if they had really tried and lost, that would mean a lot. Such a loss would be a measure of their worth. Clearly, this belief is the same as that of true competitors who try to prove themselves. Both arebased on the mistaken belief that one's self-respect relies on how well one performs in comparison with others. Both are afraid of not being… Only as this basic and often troublesome fear begins to dissolve。没有尝试，他们总是有借口：“我可能输了，但不要紧，因为我真的没有尝试。“什么是通常不会承认自己是相信如果他们真的尝试了，这意味着很多。这种损失将是一个衡量他们的价值。显然，这种信仰是真正的竞争对手试图证明自己一样。无论是基于一个人的自尊依赖于如何与他人比较中表现的错误的信念。他们都害怕不被……只有当这个基本的经常麻烦的恐惧感消失时