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You see, I have been a mess for much of the year. In April I lost mybeloved wife. Sure, there is a living person occupying the body of thesweet and loving woman that I married not quite 3 years ago. But thatperson began saying things like "I don't have any romantic feelings for you,and it has been years since I last did." (even though our wedding was lessthan 3 years ago.) That person began to forget to wear her wedding ring.That person developed feelings for another man. That person abruptly boltedfrom our marital home, and concluded that she did not miss me once she wasaway. That person ultimately could not think of anything worth preservingabout our life together, so she quit on it. The behavioral change could not have been more abrupt and shocking if alienshad abducted my wife and left a replica in her place, or if she had been asleeper agent from a foreign spy organization. I cannot describe thesurrealness of it all. So the sad summary of my year is this: I was blindsided. And betrayed.And then abandoned. Now I soldier on alone. The details are too convoluted to recount here. The more time that passes,the less I understand what happened. But I'll give you some broad brushstrokes. I worked too hard, and neglected my marriage in the process. I did notfocus enough on what mattered to her, and did things to hurt heremotionally. This will haunt me for a long, long time. But I never didanything immoral or dishonest during our 7 years together. In fact, I hadno idea what was going on. It turns out that she is a pleaser: extremelyconflict-avoidant and insecure. When she was unhappy with some aspect ofour marriage, she did not say so. Instead she did the opposite -- up untilApril, she regularly would tell me "I love our life." Now I wonder if shewas trying to convince herself of that by saying so out loud. But for mypart, that message was a signal to keep doing more of the same. Eventually,this killed her loving feelings. When the bullets began flying, I stood my ground. The second I became awareof the problem, I did everything in my power to save my marriage, anythingshe asked. Even as things spiraled downward, I never gave up. But she had no enthusiasm for any of it. She pulled the plug on maritalcounseling after just a few sessions. Ultimately she concluded that she didnot trust herself to work on the marriage without losing herself once again.She felt she needed to be on her own to have a chance to "grow up." But inthe same breath she insisted that while she was not ready for a divorce, shehad to have the freedom to see other people. That this logic made any senseat all to her finally made clear to me what I was dealing with. There wasnothing more I could do.

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你看，我今年的生活简直是一团糟。4月份的时候我失去了我挚爱的妻子。当然，现在有一个人占据了与我结婚三年不到的可爱女人的身体。但是，那个人现在开始一直说一些“我对你没有爱的感觉，上次有这种感觉已经是很多年以前了。（尽管我们结婚还不到三年）”那个人开始不记得带婚戒。那个人搬出了我们的爱巢，而且她说在她离开的时间里她一次也没想起过我。那个人基本上不留恋一点点我们一起生活的回忆，所以，她离去了。她行为上如此突然的改变让我觉得我的老婆是被外星人诱拐了并且只留下了一个复制品而已，又或者，她是一个间谍机构的潜伏特工。我没办法描述一切。所以，我今年悲惨的总结就是我完全傻眼了，被人背叛，然后被抛弃。现在我是一个人在扛。我不能在这儿细说所有的细节。时间过得越久，我对发生的事情就觉得越迷糊。但是我会告诉你一些重要的地方。我工作太努力以致慢慢忽略了我的婚姻. 对于发生在她身上的事情我没有过多的关注，而且在感情上伤害了她。这些萦绕在我心头很久很久。但是在我们在一起的7年里，我从来没有做过对不起她的事情也没有欺骗她。事实上，我根本不知道到底怎么了。事实证明她是讨人喜欢的，非常善于避开矛盾和不安定。当她因为我们的婚姻而不开心的时候，她没有这样说。她努力去改善，直到4月份。她照常对我说：我爱我们的生活。现在我觉得她是不是在试着用这样的话来劝服她自己一切都正常。但是对我而言，她的话让我觉得就跟以前一样就好。最终，这样的状态扼杀了她的爱。当子弹飞的时候，我站在原地。在那一瞬间我意识到了问题，我用尽全力去挽救婚姻，她要求的一切.尽管每况愈下，我从没放弃。但是，她已经不再有热情了。她只是去婚姻咨询那里问了一些问题。最终她得出了结论，她不能再为了婚姻而再次的迷失自己,她觉得她得靠自己来得到“长大”的机会。但是她同时又坚持说她没有想过要离婚。她得有去见其他人的自由。就是这一切让我恍然大悟我之前都是在做些什么。现在，我无能为力了