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When we look at how we choose our partners and what expectations exist at the tender beginnings of romance, some of the reasons for disaster become quite clear. We all select with unconscious accuracy a mate who will recreate with us the emotional patterns of our first homes. Dr. Carl A. Whitaker, a marital therapist and emeritus professor of psychiatry at the University of Wisconsin explains, “From early childhood on, each of us carried models for marriage, femininity, masculinity, motherhood, fatherhood and all the other family roles.” Each of us falls in love with a mate who has qualities of our parents, who will help us rediscover both the psychological happiness and miseries of our past lives. We may think we have found a man unlike Dad, but then he turns to drink or drugs, or loses his job over and over again or sits silently in front of the TV just the way Dad did. A man may choose a woman who doesn’t like kids just like his mother or who gambles away the family savings just like his mother. Or he may choose a slender wife who seems unlike his obese mother but then turns out to have other addictions that destroy their mutual happiness.

Answer 1

当我们在如何选择合作伙伴，我们期望在什么浪漫的投标开始寻找存在，为灾区的一些原因变得非常清楚。我们的所有选择与无意识的准确性伴侣谁和我们重新创造我们的第一家的情感模式。卡尔博士答：惠特克，婚姻治疗师，并在美国威斯康星大学的精神病学名誉教授解释说，“从早期的童年，我们每个人对婚姻进行，女性化，男性化，母亲，父亲和所有其他家庭角色的模型。 “我们每个人都爱上了一个伴侣谁拥有我们的父母素质，将帮助我们重新发现谁的心理都和我们过去的幸福生活的苦难。我们可能会认为我们已经找到了不同于父亲的人，但后来他转向酒精或药物，或者失去了一遍又一遍他的工作，又或者坐在电视机前就是这样的爸爸却静静地。一个人可以选择一个女人谁不喜欢像他母亲的孩子或谁赌博就像他的母亲离开了家庭储蓄。或者，他可以选择一个细长的妻子谁似乎不像他的肥胖的母亲，但随后原来有幸福，破坏了相互其他瘾。