Question

怎样从你的错误中吸取教训

Answer 1

Many people waste a lot of energy berating themselves when they do something wrong or have an error in judgement.
　　　　　　The key to healthy well-being is to learn from your mistakes, then let them go. Each one of us have made and will continue to make mistakes. It’s the price of being human. It is critical we focus on the lessons to learn from our mistakes and what we can do to correct them.
　　正确有益的方法是我们要向错误学习，然后释怀错误。因为我们每个人都犯过错并且还会不断地犯错，这是人类的代价。不过，重要的是我们从错误中吸取教训并改正它们。
　　　　　　Here are five ways to learn from a mistake and then let it go.
　　以下是从错误中吸取教训并释怀的5个方法。
　　　　　　1.When you make a mistake, own up and look for ways to correct what you’ve done wrong.
　　1.当你犯了错误，要勇于承认错误并改正错误。
　　　　　　2.Focus on what you can learn from the error. If you were careless, be more attentive to what you are doing. If the process was flawed, look at ways to do it better.
　　2.重要的是从错误中吸取教训。 如果是因为粗心导致了错误，那么在下次做的时候要更加仔细。如果做事有问题，那么我们要寻找方法做得更好。
　　　　　　3.Eliminated the negative. The first response of your inner voice is to start being self-critical. Negative self-talk, whether internal or external, will eat away at your self-esteem. Switch the soundtrack. Remind yourself of the things that you are doing well or focus on the changes you are making.
　　3.消除负面影响。你内心深处的第一个反应是自我批评。消极的自我对话，无论从内在或是外在，都会慢慢吞噬你的自信。这样，我们要切换声道，提醒自己，告诉自己现在做得很好或者让自己专注正在做出的改变。
　　　　　　4.If you have or could have harmed someone with your mistake, own up to it, make amends by apologizing, learn the lesson, commit to not repeating it, and then let it go.
　　4.如果你的错误已经或者可能伤害到某个人，我们要勇于承认错误，向他人道歉弥补，吸取教训，不要再犯同样的错误，然后不要因此耿耿于怀。
　　　　　　5.Understand, the emotional energy expended being unkind to yourself could be better invested in finding a solution to problems created by your mistakes.
　　5.要知道情绪上的困顿不会你对有任何好处，最好还是从你的错误中找到解决问题的办法。
　　　　　　I’ve heard it said that monkeys can be captured by putting a pebble in a gourd with a small opening. The monkey puts its paw into the gourd to grab the pebble. However, the opening is to small for the monkey’s paw and the pebble. However, the monkey refuses to give up its prized pebble and it is then easy to catch the monkey.
　　我听说过这样一个说法，我们可以通过在葫芦上开个小口，并在里面放进一块鹅卵石来抓住猴子。猴子会把它的爪子伸进葫芦来抓取鹅卵石，然而，当猴子抓到鹅卵石的时候，它们就不愿意轻易丢弃石头，这样它们的爪子就无法从葫芦里拿出来，于是就很容易抓住猴子了。
　　我无法知道这个说法的真实性，但是当我们面对负面行为时，它同我们的内心反应非常类似。我们会固守消极的想法而无法释怀它们。结果，我们就陷入了消极的泥潭。