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友情是广泛的爱情是唯一的友情和爱情,都是属于广义的爱情的一种。友情是爱情的基础与前提;爱情是友情的发展和质变。两者有联系,亦有质和量的区别。友情可以发展为爱情,亦可永远发...
友情是广泛的
爱情是唯一的
友情和爱情,都是属于广义的爱情的一种。友情是爱情的基础与前提;爱情是友情的发展和质变。两者有联系,亦有质和量的区别。友情可以发展为爱情,亦可永远发展不成爱情。青年朋友在男女交际中,在追求爱情中,处于友情与爱情的岔路口时,怎样才能作出准确的判断呢?
关于友情与爱情的区别,有时的确很困难。日本一位心理学者提出了五个指标,可供参考。五个指标是:
第一、支柱不同。友情的支柱是"理解",爱情则是"感情"。
友情最重要的支柱是彼此的相互了解,不仅是对方的长处优点,就是短处缺点也要充认清。只有这样,才能产生友情。爱情则不然,它是对对方的美化,视作理想后产生了恋爱,贯穿其间的全过程的是感情。
第二,地位不同。友情的地位"平等",爱情却要"一体化"。
朋友之间立场相同,地位平等,彼此之间无须多余的客气,也没有烦恼的担忧。如果遇到对朋友不利时,可以直率地提出忠告,甚至动怒,也要义正词严地规劝。朋友之间,就是这样,有人格的共呜,亦有剧烈的矛盾。爱情则不然,它具有一体感,身体虽二,心却为一,两者不是互相碰击,而是互相融合。
第三、体系不同。友情是"开放的",爱情则是"关闭的"。
两个人有坚固的友情,当人生观与志趣相同的第三者、第四者想加入的话,大家都会欢迎。爱情则不然,两人在恋爱,如果第三者从旁加入,便生嫉妒心理和排除异已的行为。
第四、基础不同。友情的基础是"信赖",爱情则是纠缠着"不安"。
一份真诚的友情,具有绝对的依赖感,犹如不会动摇的盘石。相反的,一对相爱的男女,虽不是没有依赖对方,但老是被种种不安所包围,比如"我深深地爱着她,她是否也深深地爱着我?""他的态度稍微变了,是不是还和以前一样地爱着我?"
第五、心境不同。友情充满"充足感",爱情则充满"欠缺感"。
当两个人是亲密的好朋友时,彼此都有满足的心境;但当两个人一旦成为情人时,虽然初期会有一时的充足感,可不久之后,就生不满足感,总希望有更强烈的爱情保证,经常有一种"莫名的欠缺"尾随着,有着某种着急的感觉。
一般地说,每个人在交往中,只要不欺骗自己,不是在演戏,能好好地反省自己内心的情感动向,依据上述五个指标,仔细地观察、反省,并作综合分析,对友情与爱情是可以正确地辨别的,在友情和爱情的岔路口可以准确定向。当然,人的心理和行为是复杂的,每个人都能意识到自己的行为后果,而且反映时总是要经受经验、情境和个性的折射,一切以时间、地点和条件为转移。所以,以一时一事的观察和内省为依据的判断,难免误差,必须作长期的、多方面的综合,排除误差。
为了真挚友情和纯洁爱情,我们变为交往时态度一定要庄重明快,不能矫揉造作。我们希望别人怎样对待自己,自己就应该怎样对待别人。这就是孔子所说的:"益者三友,损者三友。友直、友谅、友多闻,益矣;友便辟、友善柔、友便妄,损矣。"
必须指出的,有些青年朋友为了摄取对方的爱,总喜欢以自己的心去敲击对方,甚至不惜故弄玄虚,卖弄风情。是的,爱情是以心换心的结晶,它是两颗心共同撞击的火花,其能源是共同的理想和纯真的真诚;一方意愿的强加是办不到的,故弄的结果只能适得其反。还有一种,是利用对方的弱点,耍要挟,以打动对方的恻隐之心以求得爱情,这种行为最为无聊,它摄取不到真正的爱情,即使得到也是苟合。最为要不得的,是为了"敲定"而缠绵,要求"刺激"以保证,这种行为实际上是"玩火"的态度,终究要灼伤自己或对方,甚至双方毁灭 展开
爱情是唯一的
友情和爱情,都是属于广义的爱情的一种。友情是爱情的基础与前提;爱情是友情的发展和质变。两者有联系,亦有质和量的区别。友情可以发展为爱情,亦可永远发展不成爱情。青年朋友在男女交际中,在追求爱情中,处于友情与爱情的岔路口时,怎样才能作出准确的判断呢?
关于友情与爱情的区别,有时的确很困难。日本一位心理学者提出了五个指标,可供参考。五个指标是:
第一、支柱不同。友情的支柱是"理解",爱情则是"感情"。
友情最重要的支柱是彼此的相互了解,不仅是对方的长处优点,就是短处缺点也要充认清。只有这样,才能产生友情。爱情则不然,它是对对方的美化,视作理想后产生了恋爱,贯穿其间的全过程的是感情。
第二,地位不同。友情的地位"平等",爱情却要"一体化"。
朋友之间立场相同,地位平等,彼此之间无须多余的客气,也没有烦恼的担忧。如果遇到对朋友不利时,可以直率地提出忠告,甚至动怒,也要义正词严地规劝。朋友之间,就是这样,有人格的共呜,亦有剧烈的矛盾。爱情则不然,它具有一体感,身体虽二,心却为一,两者不是互相碰击,而是互相融合。
第三、体系不同。友情是"开放的",爱情则是"关闭的"。
两个人有坚固的友情,当人生观与志趣相同的第三者、第四者想加入的话,大家都会欢迎。爱情则不然,两人在恋爱,如果第三者从旁加入,便生嫉妒心理和排除异已的行为。
第四、基础不同。友情的基础是"信赖",爱情则是纠缠着"不安"。
一份真诚的友情,具有绝对的依赖感,犹如不会动摇的盘石。相反的,一对相爱的男女,虽不是没有依赖对方,但老是被种种不安所包围,比如"我深深地爱着她,她是否也深深地爱着我?""他的态度稍微变了,是不是还和以前一样地爱着我?"
第五、心境不同。友情充满"充足感",爱情则充满"欠缺感"。
当两个人是亲密的好朋友时,彼此都有满足的心境;但当两个人一旦成为情人时,虽然初期会有一时的充足感,可不久之后,就生不满足感,总希望有更强烈的爱情保证,经常有一种"莫名的欠缺"尾随着,有着某种着急的感觉。
一般地说,每个人在交往中,只要不欺骗自己,不是在演戏,能好好地反省自己内心的情感动向,依据上述五个指标,仔细地观察、反省,并作综合分析,对友情与爱情是可以正确地辨别的,在友情和爱情的岔路口可以准确定向。当然,人的心理和行为是复杂的,每个人都能意识到自己的行为后果,而且反映时总是要经受经验、情境和个性的折射,一切以时间、地点和条件为转移。所以,以一时一事的观察和内省为依据的判断,难免误差,必须作长期的、多方面的综合,排除误差。
为了真挚友情和纯洁爱情,我们变为交往时态度一定要庄重明快,不能矫揉造作。我们希望别人怎样对待自己,自己就应该怎样对待别人。这就是孔子所说的:"益者三友,损者三友。友直、友谅、友多闻,益矣;友便辟、友善柔、友便妄,损矣。"
必须指出的,有些青年朋友为了摄取对方的爱,总喜欢以自己的心去敲击对方,甚至不惜故弄玄虚,卖弄风情。是的,爱情是以心换心的结晶,它是两颗心共同撞击的火花,其能源是共同的理想和纯真的真诚;一方意愿的强加是办不到的,故弄的结果只能适得其反。还有一种,是利用对方的弱点,耍要挟,以打动对方的恻隐之心以求得爱情,这种行为最为无聊,它摄取不到真正的爱情,即使得到也是苟合。最为要不得的,是为了"敲定"而缠绵,要求"刺激"以保证,这种行为实际上是"玩火"的态度,终究要灼伤自己或对方,甚至双方毁灭 展开
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友情是广泛的
爱情是唯一的
Friendship is universal
Love is unique
友情和爱情,都是属于广义的爱情的一种。友情是爱情的基础与前提;爱情是友情的发展和质变。两者有联系,亦有质和量的区别。友情可以发展为爱情,亦可永远发展不成爱情。青年朋友在男女交际中,在追求爱情中,处于友情与爱情的岔路口时,怎样才能作出准确的判断呢?
Friendship and love both belong to the universal love. Friendship is the base and premise of love; love is the development and qualitative change of friendship. Both has connections and also has differences in quality and quantity. Friendship can grow up into love, or it never grows up into love. In the pursuit of love, for the young friends, in the social intercourse, how could they make the right judgment when they are in a fork of friendship and love
关于友情与爱情的区别,有时的确很困难。日本一位心理学者提出了五个指标,可供参考。五个指标是:
It’s indeed difficult to make a distinction between friendship and love sometimes. One Japanese scholar puts forward 5 indexes for differences which can be referred. Here are:
第一、支柱不同。友情的支柱是"理解",爱情则是"感情"。
Firstly, pillars are different. The pillar of friendship is “understanding” and the pillar of love is affection.
友情最重要的支柱是彼此的相互了解,不仅是对方的长处优点,就是短处缺点也要充认清。只有这样,才能产生友情。爱情则不然,它是对对方的美化,视作理想后产生了恋爱,贯穿其间的全过程的是感情。
The most important pillar of friendship is understanding for both their own strong points and weak points, which is necessary for friendship. Love is not like this. Love beautifies each other and makes it ideal. And love is the whole process feeling.
第二,地位不同。友情的地位"平等",爱情却要"一体化"。
Secondly, position is different. Position for friendship is equity and love needs unifying.
朋友之间立场相同,地位平等,彼此之间无须多余的客气,也没有烦恼的担忧。如果遇到对朋友不利时,可以直率地提出忠告,甚至动怒,也要义正词严地规劝。朋友之间,就是这样,有人格的共呜,亦有剧烈的矛盾。爱情则不然,它具有一体感,身体虽二,心却为一,两者不是互相碰击,而是互相融合。
Friends have same position and same status. There are not redundant politeness and worries for annoyance among friends. If there’s something bad friends can sincerely advise frankly, and even he/she gets angry friends also give the suggestion with justice. Friends are just it is. They have personality’s resonance and drastic conflicts. Love is not alike. It has intergration, which means two bodies have one heart. They both mix together rather than conflict.
第三、体系不同。友情是"开放的",爱情则是"关闭的"。
Thirdly, system is different. Friendship is open and love is close.
两个人有坚固的友情,当人生观与志趣相同的第三者、第四者想加入的话,大家都会欢迎。爱情则不然,两人在恋爱,如果第三者从旁加入,便生嫉妒心理和排除异已的行为。
Two people have solid friendship. When the third or fourth who is like-minded with same values he/she will be welcome. Love is not alike. If the third person intervenes when the two are in love there will be jealousy and some deeds getting rid of the other.
第四、基础不同。友情的基础是"信赖",爱情则是纠缠着"不安"。
Fourthly, base is different. Trust is the base of friendship. And the base of love is disturbance.
一份真诚的友情,具有绝对的依赖感,犹如不会动摇的盘石。相反的,一对相爱的男女,虽不是没有依赖对方,但老是被种种不安所包围,比如"我深深地爱着她,她是否也深深地爱着我?""他的态度稍微变了,是不是还和以前一样地爱着我?"
One sincere friendship has absolute dependence like the firm rock. Contrarily, a couple of people who are in love are always surrendered by different kinds of disturbance such as “I love her deeply ,but does she love me,too”, “His attitude is different. Does he love me like before”, and so on ,though they are not rely on each other
第五、心境不同。友情充满"充足感",爱情则充满"欠缺感"。
Fifthly, mood is different. Friendship is full of sufficiency and love is full of deficiency.
当两个人是亲密的好朋友时,彼此都有满足的心境;但当两个人一旦成为情人时,虽然初期会有一时的充足感,可不久之后,就生不满足感,总希望有更强烈的爱情保证,经常有一种"莫名的欠缺"尾随着,有着某种着急的感觉。
When two people are intimacy good friends they both have contented mood. But when they become lovers there will be sense of non-satisfaction after momentary sense of satisfaction. They always wish stronger love guarantee and often have nameless deficiency and feeling of anxiousness.
一般地说,每个人在交往中,只要不欺骗自己,不是在演戏,能好好地反省自己内心的情感动向,依据上述五个指标,仔细地观察、反省,并作综合分析,对友情与爱情是可以正确地辨别的,在友情和爱情的岔路口可以准确定向。当然,人的心理和行为是复杂的,每个人都能意识到自己的行为后果,而且反映时总是要经受经验、情境和个性的折射,一切以时间、地点和条件为转移。所以,以一时一事的观察和内省为依据的判断,难免误差,必须作长期的、多方面的综合,排除误差。
Generally speaking, if only everyone doesn’t cheat himself and act in a play and can self-examine his emotional trend in the communication he can correctly distinguish between friendship and love if he can observe , self-examine and make analysis by synthesis according to the above five indexes. It’s sure that human’s psychology and behavior are complicated. Everyone can realize the consequences of his behavior and the reflection always will be through the refraction of experience, situation and personality, which will be transferred according to the time, location and condition. Therefore, if people make the judgment by the momentary single thing and self-examination there will be inevitable mistakes. People must make long-term and various analysis in order to eliminate the mistakes.
为了真挚友情和纯洁爱情,我们变为交往时态度一定要庄重明快,不能矫揉造作。我们希望别人怎样对待自己,自己就应该怎样对待别人。这就是孔子所说的:"益者三友,损者三友。友直、友谅、友多闻,益矣;友便辟、友善柔、友便妄,损矣。"
For the sincere friendship and pure love we should have solemn and clear attitude on the communication rather than mincement. We should treat other people like the treatment we hope get from others. This is what Confucius said ”There are three kinds of friends who are good: friends are frank , friends can forgive and friends have much learning. There are three kinds of friends who are bad: friends are友便辟、友善柔、友便妄”
必须指出的,有些青年朋友为了摄取对方的爱,总喜欢以自己的心去敲击对方,甚至不惜故弄玄虚,卖弄风情。是的,爱情是以心换心的结晶,它是两颗心共同撞击的火花,其能源是共同的理想和纯真的真诚;一方意愿的强加是办不到的,故弄的结果只能适得其反。还有一种,是利用对方的弱点,耍要挟,以打动对方的恻隐之心以求得爱情,这种行为最为无聊,它摄取不到真正的爱情,即使得到也是苟合。最为要不得的,是为了"敲定"而缠绵,要求"刺激"以保证,这种行为实际上是"玩火"的态度,终究要灼伤自己或对方,甚至双方毁灭
Here the paper must point out that some young friends always like to knock at the other with his own heart to get the other’s love, even these young people flatter themselves and play the coquette. It’s true that love is the fruit of heart-changing-heart. It’s spark hit by two hearts, the energy of which is common ideal and pure sincerity. If one person wants to force the other it will not work. Some people will threaten the other to touch the other’s sense of compassion making use of his/her weak points. This behavior is most boring and it can’t get true love. If someone get the love by this way it will be illicit sexual relation. The following behavior is most boring: it’s lingering for “nailing down” and asks for stimulation for quarantee. This behavior is “play fire” attitude and it will burn himself or the other, or ruin both of them finally.
友情是广泛的
爱情是唯一的
Friendship is universal
Love is unique
友情和爱情,都是属于广义的爱情的一种。友情是爱情的基础与前提;爱情是友情的发展和质变。两者有联系,亦有质和量的区别。友情可以发展为爱情,亦可永远发展不成爱情。青年朋友在男女交际中,在追求爱情中,处于友情与爱情的岔路口时,怎样才能作出准确的判断呢?
Friendship and love both belong to the universal love. Friendship is the base and premise of love; love is the development and qualitative change of friendship. Both has connections and also has differences in quality and quantity. Friendship can grow up into love, or it never grows up into love. In the pursuit of love, for the young friends, in the social intercourse, how could they make the right judgment when they are in a fork of friendship and love
关于友情与爱情的区别,有时的确很困难。日本一位心理学者提出了五个指标,可供参考。五个指标是:
It’s indeed difficult to make a distinction between friendship and love sometimes. One Japanese scholar puts forward 5 indexes for differences which can be referred. Here are:
第一、支柱不同。友情的支柱是"理解",爱情则是"感情"。
Firstly, pillars are different. The pillar of friendship is “understanding” and the pillar of love is affection.
友情最重要的支柱是彼此的相互了解,不仅是对方的长处优点,就是短处缺点也要充认清。只有这样,才能产生友情。爱情则不然,它是对对方的美化,视作理想后产生了恋爱,贯穿其间的全过程的是感情。
The most important pillar of friendship is understanding for both their own strong points and weak points, which is necessary for friendship. Love is not like this. Love beautifies each other and makes it ideal. And love is the whole process feeling.
第二,地位不同。友情的地位"平等",爱情却要"一体化"。
Secondly, position is different. Position for friendship is equity and love needs unifying.
朋友之间立场相同,地位平等,彼此之间无须多余的客气,也没有烦恼的担忧。如果遇到对朋友不利时,可以直率地提出忠告,甚至动怒,也要义正词严地规劝。朋友之间,就是这样,有人格的共呜,亦有剧烈的矛盾。爱情则不然,它具有一体感,身体虽二,心却为一,两者不是互相碰击,而是互相融合。
Friends have same position and same status. There are not redundant politeness and worries for annoyance among friends. If there’s something bad friends can sincerely advise frankly, and even he/she gets angry friends also give the suggestion with justice. Friends are just it is. They have personality’s resonance and drastic conflicts. Love is not alike. It has intergration, which means two bodies have one heart. They both mix together rather than conflict.
第三、体系不同。友情是"开放的",爱情则是"关闭的"。
Thirdly, system is different. Friendship is open and love is close.
两个人有坚固的友情,当人生观与志趣相同的第三者、第四者想加入的话,大家都会欢迎。爱情则不然,两人在恋爱,如果第三者从旁加入,便生嫉妒心理和排除异已的行为。
Two people have solid friendship. When the third or fourth who is like-minded with same values he/she will be welcome. Love is not alike. If the third person intervenes when the two are in love there will be jealousy and some deeds getting rid of the other.
第四、基础不同。友情的基础是"信赖",爱情则是纠缠着"不安"。
Fourthly, base is different. Trust is the base of friendship. And the base of love is disturbance.
一份真诚的友情,具有绝对的依赖感,犹如不会动摇的盘石。相反的,一对相爱的男女,虽不是没有依赖对方,但老是被种种不安所包围,比如"我深深地爱着她,她是否也深深地爱着我?""他的态度稍微变了,是不是还和以前一样地爱着我?"
One sincere friendship has absolute dependence like the firm rock. Contrarily, a couple of people who are in love are always surrendered by different kinds of disturbance such as “I love her deeply ,but does she love me,too”, “His attitude is different. Does he love me like before”, and so on ,though they are not rely on each other
第五、心境不同。友情充满"充足感",爱情则充满"欠缺感"。
Fifthly, mood is different. Friendship is full of sufficiency and love is full of deficiency.
当两个人是亲密的好朋友时,彼此都有满足的心境;但当两个人一旦成为情人时,虽然初期会有一时的充足感,可不久之后,就生不满足感,总希望有更强烈的爱情保证,经常有一种"莫名的欠缺"尾随着,有着某种着急的感觉。
When two people are intimacy good friends they both have contented mood. But when they become lovers there will be sense of non-satisfaction after momentary sense of satisfaction. They always wish stronger love guarantee and often have nameless deficiency and feeling of anxiousness.
一般地说,每个人在交往中,只要不欺骗自己,不是在演戏,能好好地反省自己内心的情感动向,依据上述五个指标,仔细地观察、反省,并作综合分析,对友情与爱情是可以正确地辨别的,在友情和爱情的岔路口可以准确定向。当然,人的心理和行为是复杂的,每个人都能意识到自己的行为后果,而且反映时总是要经受经验、情境和个性的折射,一切以时间、地点和条件为转移。所以,以一时一事的观察和内省为依据的判断,难免误差,必须作长期的、多方面的综合,排除误差。
Generally speaking, if only everyone doesn’t cheat himself and act in a play and can self-examine his emotional trend in the communication he can correctly distinguish between friendship and love if he can observe , self-examine and make analysis by synthesis according to the above five indexes. It’s sure that human’s psychology and behavior are complicated. Everyone can realize the consequences of his behavior and the reflection always will be through the refraction of experience, situation and personality, which will be transferred according to the time, location and condition. Therefore, if people make the judgment by the momentary single thing and self-examination there will be inevitable mistakes. People must make long-term and various analysis in order to eliminate the mistakes.
为了真挚友情和纯洁爱情,我们变为交往时态度一定要庄重明快,不能矫揉造作。我们希望别人怎样对待自己,自己就应该怎样对待别人。这就是孔子所说的:"益者三友,损者三友。友直、友谅、友多闻,益矣;友便辟、友善柔、友便妄,损矣。"
For the sincere friendship and pure love we should have solemn and clear attitude on the communication rather than mincement. We should treat other people like the treatment we hope get from others. This is what Confucius said ”There are three kinds of friends who are good: friends are frank , friends can forgive and friends have much learning. There are three kinds of friends who are bad: friends are友便辟、友善柔、友便妄”
必须指出的,有些青年朋友为了摄取对方的爱,总喜欢以自己的心去敲击对方,甚至不惜故弄玄虚,卖弄风情。是的,爱情是以心换心的结晶,它是两颗心共同撞击的火花,其能源是共同的理想和纯真的真诚;一方意愿的强加是办不到的,故弄的结果只能适得其反。还有一种,是利用对方的弱点,耍要挟,以打动对方的恻隐之心以求得爱情,这种行为最为无聊,它摄取不到真正的爱情,即使得到也是苟合。最为要不得的,是为了"敲定"而缠绵,要求"刺激"以保证,这种行为实际上是"玩火"的态度,终究要灼伤自己或对方,甚至双方毁灭
Here the paper must point out that some young friends always like to knock at the other with his own heart to get the other’s love, even these young people flatter themselves and play the coquette. It’s true that love is the fruit of heart-changing-heart. It’s spark hit by two hearts, the energy of which is common ideal and pure sincerity. If one person wants to force the other it will not work. Some people will threaten the other to touch the other’s sense of compassion making use of his/her weak points. This behavior is most boring and it can’t get true love. If someone get the love by this way it will be illicit sexual relation. The following behavior is most boring: it’s lingering for “nailing down” and asks for stimulation for quarantee. This behavior is “play fire” attitude and it will burn himself or the other, or ruin both of them finally.
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友情是广泛的
Friendship is widely
爱情是唯一的
Love is the only
友情和爱情,都是属于广义的爱情的一种。
Friendship and love, all belong to the generalized love one.
友情是爱情的基础与前提;
Friendship is the basis and premise of love;
爱情是友情的发展和质变。
Love is the development and qualitative change friendship.
两者有联系,亦有质和量的区别。
A link, also have the quality and quantity of differentiation.
友情可以发展为爱情,亦可永远发展不成爱情。
Friendship can develop into love, love can not go on forever.
青年朋友在男女交际中,在追求爱情中,处于友情与爱情的岔路口时,怎样才能作出准确的判断呢?
Young friends in communication between men and women, in the pursuit of love, friendship and love in crossway, how to make an accurate judgment?
关于友情与爱情的区别,有时的确很困难。
About the difference between friendship and love, sometimes really difficult.
日本一位心理学者提出了五个指标,可供参考。
A Japanese psychological scholars put forward five indicators, available for reference.
五个指标是:
Five indicators are:
第一、支柱不同。
First, the prop different.
友情的支柱是"理解",爱情则是"感情"。
Friendship is "understand" pillar of love is "feelings".
友情最重要的支柱是彼此的相互了解,不仅是对方的长处优点,就是短处缺点也要充认清。
Friendship is the most important one pillar of mutual understanding, not only is the other party strengths advantages, shortcomings is shortcomings will be fully recognize.
只有这样,才能产生友情。
Only in this way can we produce friendship.
爱情则不然,它是对对方的美化,视作理想后产生了恋爱,贯穿其间的全过程的是感情。
Love is not that it is to each other after the beautification, regarded as an ideal produced in love, the whole process of main factor is affection.
第二,地位不同。
Second, different status.
友情的地位"平等",爱情却要"一体化"。
The status of friendship "equality", love will "integration".
朋友之间立场相同,地位平等,彼此之间无须多余的客气,也没有烦恼的担忧。
Between friends, same equal status position between each other, without extra polite, also does not have the worry concerns.
如果遇到对朋友不利时,可以直率地提出忠告,甚至动怒,也要义正词严地规劝。
If meet friends may, when to adverse advice freely, also want to be angry, even decission possible admonishment.
朋友之间,就是这样,有人格的共呜,亦有剧烈的矛盾。
Among friends, is such, have personality, also have severe were blare of contradictions.
爱情则不然,它具有一体感,身体虽二,心却为一,两者不是互相碰击,而是互相融合。
Love is not, it has the oneness, the body is two, but their hearts are for one, they're not mutual touch attack, but merging.
第三、体系不同。
Third, system is different.
友情是"开放的",爱情则是"关闭的"。
Friendship is "open", love is a "closed".
两个人有坚固的友情,当人生观与志趣相同的第三者、第四者想加入的话,大家都会欢迎。
Two men have a strong friendship, when the minded outlook on life and third party, the fourth person want to join the words, everyone will welcome.
爱情则不然,两人在恋爱,如果第三者从旁加入,便生嫉妒心理和排除异已的行为。
Love is not, the two are in love, if a third party, will give beside join from envy of mental state and eliminate the behavior of different has.
第四、基础不同。
Fourth, basic difference.
友情的基础是"信赖",爱情则是纠缠着"不安"。
Friendship is based on "trust", love is laced with "upset".
一份真诚的友情,具有绝对的依赖感,犹如不会动摇的盘石。
A sincere friendship, have absolute engendered, like not divided the rock.
相反的,一对相爱的男女,虽不是没有依赖对方,但老是被种种不安所包围,比如"我深深地爱着她,她是否也深深地爱着我?"
On the contrary, a loving men and women, although not be not depend on each other, but always being surrounded by various uneasy, such as "I'm deeply in love with her, she is also deeply in love with me?"
"他的态度稍微变了,是不是还和以前一样地爱着我?"
"His attitude slightly changed, whether still as before to love me?"
第五、心境不同。
Fifth, mood different.
友情充满"充足感",爱情则充满"欠缺感"。
Friendship with "enough sense", with "love is lack of sense".
当两个人是亲密的好朋友时,彼此都有满足的心境;
When two people are intimate friends, both satisfy mood;
但当两个人一旦成为情人时,虽然初期会有一时的充足感,可不久之后,就生不满足感,总希望有更强烈的爱情保证,经常有一种"莫名的欠缺"尾随着,有着某种着急的感觉。
But when two people once be lovers, although there will be temporary enough early move, can soon after, will bear no satisfaction, total hope to have more intense love guarantee, often have a "sense of lack of" followed, some worry feeling.
一般地说,每个人在交往中,只要不欺骗自己,不是在演戏,能好好地反省自己内心的情感动向,依据上述五个指标,仔细地观察、反省,并作综合分析,对友情与爱情是可以正确地辨别的,在友情和爱情的岔路口可以准确定向。
Generally speaking, everyone in a relationship, if not deceive ourselves, not in acting, can well reflect upon your own inner emotional trend, based on the above five indicators, carefully observe, introspection and comprehensive analysis, friendship and love is to correctly identify, can be in crossway of friendship and love can accurately orientation.
当然,人的心理和行为是复杂的,每个人都能意识到自己的行为后果,而且反映时总是要经受经验、情境和个性的折射,一切以时间、地点和条件为转移。
Of course, the person's psychology and the behavior is complex, everyone can realize their behavior consequences, and always be subjected to experience reflects the refraction and the situation and personality, everything with time, place and conditions for transfer.
所以,以一时一事的观察和内省为依据的判断,难免误差,必须作长期的、多方面的综合,排除误差。
So, with the observation and introspection glide based on judgement, unavoidably error, must make long-term, various comprehensive, eliminate the error.
为了真挚友情和纯洁爱情,我们变为交往时态度一定要庄重明快,不能矫揉造作。
In order to sincere friendship and pure love, we become intercourse attitude must grave and lively, can't affectation.
我们希望别人怎样对待自己,自己就应该怎样对待别人。
We hope others treat yourself, how should treat people.
这就是孔子所说的:"益者三友,损者三友。友直、友谅、友多闻,益矣;友便辟、友善柔、友便妄,损矣。"
This is the: "Confucius who the PE, undermines qinghe qinghe. Friend straight, friendly dare, friendly, and open a PE yi; then monarch, friendly soft, friendly and false, caustic yi."
必须指出的,有些青年朋友为了摄取对方的爱,总喜欢以自己的心去敲击对方,甚至不惜故弄玄虚,卖弄风情。
It must be pointed out, some young friends in order to absorb each other's love, always like to his heart to knock each other, even at show off amorous feelings, worthless.
是的,爱情是以心换心的结晶,它是两颗心共同撞击的火花,其能源是共同的理想和纯真的真诚;
Yes, love is the crystallization of the heart change, it is heart two heart to crash sparks, and its energy is the common ideal and pure sincere;
一方意愿的强加是办不到的,故弄的结果只能适得其反。
Party wishes to impose is impossible, so make the outcome would backfire.
还有一种,是利用对方的弱点,耍要挟,以打动对方的恻隐之心以求得爱情,这种行为最为无聊,它摄取不到真正的爱情,即使得到也是苟合。
There is a, is use the other weaknesses, play to impress the other coerce, benevolence, this kind of behavior to seek love most boring, it don't get real love, even though it is sex.
最为要不得的,是为了"敲定"而缠绵,要求"刺激"以保证,这种行为实际上是"玩火"的态度,终究要灼伤自己或对方,甚至双方毁灭
Most bad, is to "finalised" and lingering, demanding "stimulus" to ensure that this kind of behavior is actually "playing with fire" attitude, ultimately to burn yourself or the other, or both destruction
Friendship is widely
爱情是唯一的
Love is the only
友情和爱情,都是属于广义的爱情的一种。
Friendship and love, all belong to the generalized love one.
友情是爱情的基础与前提;
Friendship is the basis and premise of love;
爱情是友情的发展和质变。
Love is the development and qualitative change friendship.
两者有联系,亦有质和量的区别。
A link, also have the quality and quantity of differentiation.
友情可以发展为爱情,亦可永远发展不成爱情。
Friendship can develop into love, love can not go on forever.
青年朋友在男女交际中,在追求爱情中,处于友情与爱情的岔路口时,怎样才能作出准确的判断呢?
Young friends in communication between men and women, in the pursuit of love, friendship and love in crossway, how to make an accurate judgment?
关于友情与爱情的区别,有时的确很困难。
About the difference between friendship and love, sometimes really difficult.
日本一位心理学者提出了五个指标,可供参考。
A Japanese psychological scholars put forward five indicators, available for reference.
五个指标是:
Five indicators are:
第一、支柱不同。
First, the prop different.
友情的支柱是"理解",爱情则是"感情"。
Friendship is "understand" pillar of love is "feelings".
友情最重要的支柱是彼此的相互了解,不仅是对方的长处优点,就是短处缺点也要充认清。
Friendship is the most important one pillar of mutual understanding, not only is the other party strengths advantages, shortcomings is shortcomings will be fully recognize.
只有这样,才能产生友情。
Only in this way can we produce friendship.
爱情则不然,它是对对方的美化,视作理想后产生了恋爱,贯穿其间的全过程的是感情。
Love is not that it is to each other after the beautification, regarded as an ideal produced in love, the whole process of main factor is affection.
第二,地位不同。
Second, different status.
友情的地位"平等",爱情却要"一体化"。
The status of friendship "equality", love will "integration".
朋友之间立场相同,地位平等,彼此之间无须多余的客气,也没有烦恼的担忧。
Between friends, same equal status position between each other, without extra polite, also does not have the worry concerns.
如果遇到对朋友不利时,可以直率地提出忠告,甚至动怒,也要义正词严地规劝。
If meet friends may, when to adverse advice freely, also want to be angry, even decission possible admonishment.
朋友之间,就是这样,有人格的共呜,亦有剧烈的矛盾。
Among friends, is such, have personality, also have severe were blare of contradictions.
爱情则不然,它具有一体感,身体虽二,心却为一,两者不是互相碰击,而是互相融合。
Love is not, it has the oneness, the body is two, but their hearts are for one, they're not mutual touch attack, but merging.
第三、体系不同。
Third, system is different.
友情是"开放的",爱情则是"关闭的"。
Friendship is "open", love is a "closed".
两个人有坚固的友情,当人生观与志趣相同的第三者、第四者想加入的话,大家都会欢迎。
Two men have a strong friendship, when the minded outlook on life and third party, the fourth person want to join the words, everyone will welcome.
爱情则不然,两人在恋爱,如果第三者从旁加入,便生嫉妒心理和排除异已的行为。
Love is not, the two are in love, if a third party, will give beside join from envy of mental state and eliminate the behavior of different has.
第四、基础不同。
Fourth, basic difference.
友情的基础是"信赖",爱情则是纠缠着"不安"。
Friendship is based on "trust", love is laced with "upset".
一份真诚的友情,具有绝对的依赖感,犹如不会动摇的盘石。
A sincere friendship, have absolute engendered, like not divided the rock.
相反的,一对相爱的男女,虽不是没有依赖对方,但老是被种种不安所包围,比如"我深深地爱着她,她是否也深深地爱着我?"
On the contrary, a loving men and women, although not be not depend on each other, but always being surrounded by various uneasy, such as "I'm deeply in love with her, she is also deeply in love with me?"
"他的态度稍微变了,是不是还和以前一样地爱着我?"
"His attitude slightly changed, whether still as before to love me?"
第五、心境不同。
Fifth, mood different.
友情充满"充足感",爱情则充满"欠缺感"。
Friendship with "enough sense", with "love is lack of sense".
当两个人是亲密的好朋友时,彼此都有满足的心境;
When two people are intimate friends, both satisfy mood;
但当两个人一旦成为情人时,虽然初期会有一时的充足感,可不久之后,就生不满足感,总希望有更强烈的爱情保证,经常有一种"莫名的欠缺"尾随着,有着某种着急的感觉。
But when two people once be lovers, although there will be temporary enough early move, can soon after, will bear no satisfaction, total hope to have more intense love guarantee, often have a "sense of lack of" followed, some worry feeling.
一般地说,每个人在交往中,只要不欺骗自己,不是在演戏,能好好地反省自己内心的情感动向,依据上述五个指标,仔细地观察、反省,并作综合分析,对友情与爱情是可以正确地辨别的,在友情和爱情的岔路口可以准确定向。
Generally speaking, everyone in a relationship, if not deceive ourselves, not in acting, can well reflect upon your own inner emotional trend, based on the above five indicators, carefully observe, introspection and comprehensive analysis, friendship and love is to correctly identify, can be in crossway of friendship and love can accurately orientation.
当然,人的心理和行为是复杂的,每个人都能意识到自己的行为后果,而且反映时总是要经受经验、情境和个性的折射,一切以时间、地点和条件为转移。
Of course, the person's psychology and the behavior is complex, everyone can realize their behavior consequences, and always be subjected to experience reflects the refraction and the situation and personality, everything with time, place and conditions for transfer.
所以,以一时一事的观察和内省为依据的判断,难免误差,必须作长期的、多方面的综合,排除误差。
So, with the observation and introspection glide based on judgement, unavoidably error, must make long-term, various comprehensive, eliminate the error.
为了真挚友情和纯洁爱情,我们变为交往时态度一定要庄重明快,不能矫揉造作。
In order to sincere friendship and pure love, we become intercourse attitude must grave and lively, can't affectation.
我们希望别人怎样对待自己,自己就应该怎样对待别人。
We hope others treat yourself, how should treat people.
这就是孔子所说的:"益者三友,损者三友。友直、友谅、友多闻,益矣;友便辟、友善柔、友便妄,损矣。"
This is the: "Confucius who the PE, undermines qinghe qinghe. Friend straight, friendly dare, friendly, and open a PE yi; then monarch, friendly soft, friendly and false, caustic yi."
必须指出的,有些青年朋友为了摄取对方的爱,总喜欢以自己的心去敲击对方,甚至不惜故弄玄虚,卖弄风情。
It must be pointed out, some young friends in order to absorb each other's love, always like to his heart to knock each other, even at show off amorous feelings, worthless.
是的,爱情是以心换心的结晶,它是两颗心共同撞击的火花,其能源是共同的理想和纯真的真诚;
Yes, love is the crystallization of the heart change, it is heart two heart to crash sparks, and its energy is the common ideal and pure sincere;
一方意愿的强加是办不到的,故弄的结果只能适得其反。
Party wishes to impose is impossible, so make the outcome would backfire.
还有一种,是利用对方的弱点,耍要挟,以打动对方的恻隐之心以求得爱情,这种行为最为无聊,它摄取不到真正的爱情,即使得到也是苟合。
There is a, is use the other weaknesses, play to impress the other coerce, benevolence, this kind of behavior to seek love most boring, it don't get real love, even though it is sex.
最为要不得的,是为了"敲定"而缠绵,要求"刺激"以保证,这种行为实际上是"玩火"的态度,终究要灼伤自己或对方,甚至双方毁灭
Most bad, is to "finalised" and lingering, demanding "stimulus" to ensure that this kind of behavior is actually "playing with fire" attitude, ultimately to burn yourself or the other, or both destruction
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Friendship is widely
Love is the only
Friendship and love, all belong to the generalized love one. Friendship is the basis and premise of love; Love is the development and qualitative change friendship. A link, also have the quality and quantity of differentiation. Friendship can develop into love, love can not go on forever. Young friends in communication between men and women, in the pursuit of love, friendship and love in crossway, how to make an accurate judgment?
About the difference between friendship and love, sometimes really difficult. A Japanese psychological scholars put forward five indicators, available for reference. Five indicators are:
First, the prop different. Friendship is "understand" pillar of love is "feelings".
Friendship is the most important one pillar of mutual understanding, not only is the other party strengths advantages, shortcomings is shortcomings will be fully recognize. Only in this way can we produce friendship. Love is not that it is to each other after the beautification, regarded as an ideal produced in love, the whole process of main factor is affection.
Second, different status. The status of friendship "equality", love will "integration".
Between friends, same equal status position between each other, without extra polite, also does not have the worry concerns. If meet friends may, when to adverse advice freely, also want to be angry, even decission possible admonishment. Among friends, is such, have personality, also have severe were blare of contradictions. Love is not, it has the oneness, the body is two, but their hearts are for one, they're not mutual touch attack, but merging.
Third, system is different. Friendship is "open", love is a "closed".
Two men have a strong friendship, when the minded outlook on life and third party, the fourth person want to join the words, everyone will welcome. Love is not, the two are in love, if a third party, will give beside join from envy of mental state and eliminate the behavior of different has.
Fourth, basic difference. Friendship is based on "trust", love is laced with "upset".
A sincere friendship, have absolute engendered, like not divided the rock. On the contrary, a loving men and women, although not be not depend on each other, but always being surrounded by various uneasy, such as "I'm deeply in love with her, she is also deeply in love with me?" "His attitude slightly changed, whether still as before to love me?"
Fifth, mood different. Friendship with "enough sense", with "love is lack of sense".
When two people are intimate friends, both satisfy mood; But when two people once be lovers, although there will be temporary enough early move, can soon after, will bear no satisfaction, total hope to have more intense love guarantee, often have a "sense of lack of" followed, some worry feeling.
Generally speaking, everyone in a relationship, if not deceive ourselves, not in acting, can well reflect upon your own inner emotional trend, based on the above five indicators, carefully observe, introspection and comprehensive analysis, friendship and love is to correctly identify, can be in crossway of friendship and love can accurately orientation. Of course, the person's psychology and the behavior is complex, everyone can realize their behavior consequences, and always be subjected to experience reflects the refraction and the situation and personality, everything with time, place and conditions for transfer. So, with the observation and introspection glide based on judgement, unavoidably error, must make long-term, various comprehensive, eliminate the error.
In order to sincere friendship and pure love, we become intercourse attitude must grave and lively, can't affectation. We hope others treat yourself, how should treat people. This is the: "Confucius who the PE, undermines qinghe qinghe. Friend straight, friendly dare, friendly, and open a PE yi; then monarch, friendly soft, friendly and false, caustic yi."
It must be pointed out, some young friends in order to absorb each other's love, always like to his heart to knock each other, even at show off amorous feelings, worthless. Yes, love is the crystallization of the heart change, it is heart two heart to crash sparks, and its energy is the common ideal and pure sincere; Party wishes to impose is impossible, so make the outcome would backfire. There is a, is use the other weaknesses, play to impress the other coerce, benevolence, this kind of behavior to seek love most boring, it don't get real love, even though it is sex. Most bad, is to "finalised" and lingering, demanding "stimulus" to ensure that this kind of behavior is actually "playing with fire" attitude, ultimately to burn yourself or the other, or both destruction
Love is the only
Friendship and love, all belong to the generalized love one. Friendship is the basis and premise of love; Love is the development and qualitative change friendship. A link, also have the quality and quantity of differentiation. Friendship can develop into love, love can not go on forever. Young friends in communication between men and women, in the pursuit of love, friendship and love in crossway, how to make an accurate judgment?
About the difference between friendship and love, sometimes really difficult. A Japanese psychological scholars put forward five indicators, available for reference. Five indicators are:
First, the prop different. Friendship is "understand" pillar of love is "feelings".
Friendship is the most important one pillar of mutual understanding, not only is the other party strengths advantages, shortcomings is shortcomings will be fully recognize. Only in this way can we produce friendship. Love is not that it is to each other after the beautification, regarded as an ideal produced in love, the whole process of main factor is affection.
Second, different status. The status of friendship "equality", love will "integration".
Between friends, same equal status position between each other, without extra polite, also does not have the worry concerns. If meet friends may, when to adverse advice freely, also want to be angry, even decission possible admonishment. Among friends, is such, have personality, also have severe were blare of contradictions. Love is not, it has the oneness, the body is two, but their hearts are for one, they're not mutual touch attack, but merging.
Third, system is different. Friendship is "open", love is a "closed".
Two men have a strong friendship, when the minded outlook on life and third party, the fourth person want to join the words, everyone will welcome. Love is not, the two are in love, if a third party, will give beside join from envy of mental state and eliminate the behavior of different has.
Fourth, basic difference. Friendship is based on "trust", love is laced with "upset".
A sincere friendship, have absolute engendered, like not divided the rock. On the contrary, a loving men and women, although not be not depend on each other, but always being surrounded by various uneasy, such as "I'm deeply in love with her, she is also deeply in love with me?" "His attitude slightly changed, whether still as before to love me?"
Fifth, mood different. Friendship with "enough sense", with "love is lack of sense".
When two people are intimate friends, both satisfy mood; But when two people once be lovers, although there will be temporary enough early move, can soon after, will bear no satisfaction, total hope to have more intense love guarantee, often have a "sense of lack of" followed, some worry feeling.
Generally speaking, everyone in a relationship, if not deceive ourselves, not in acting, can well reflect upon your own inner emotional trend, based on the above five indicators, carefully observe, introspection and comprehensive analysis, friendship and love is to correctly identify, can be in crossway of friendship and love can accurately orientation. Of course, the person's psychology and the behavior is complex, everyone can realize their behavior consequences, and always be subjected to experience reflects the refraction and the situation and personality, everything with time, place and conditions for transfer. So, with the observation and introspection glide based on judgement, unavoidably error, must make long-term, various comprehensive, eliminate the error.
In order to sincere friendship and pure love, we become intercourse attitude must grave and lively, can't affectation. We hope others treat yourself, how should treat people. This is the: "Confucius who the PE, undermines qinghe qinghe. Friend straight, friendly dare, friendly, and open a PE yi; then monarch, friendly soft, friendly and false, caustic yi."
It must be pointed out, some young friends in order to absorb each other's love, always like to his heart to knock each other, even at show off amorous feelings, worthless. Yes, love is the crystallization of the heart change, it is heart two heart to crash sparks, and its energy is the common ideal and pure sincere; Party wishes to impose is impossible, so make the outcome would backfire. There is a, is use the other weaknesses, play to impress the other coerce, benevolence, this kind of behavior to seek love most boring, it don't get real love, even though it is sex. Most bad, is to "finalised" and lingering, demanding "stimulus" to ensure that this kind of behavior is actually "playing with fire" attitude, ultimately to burn yourself or the other, or both destruction
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