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#6. You pick the wrong person because you do not have a deeper emotional connection with this person.
To evaluate whether you have a deeper emotional connection or not, ask: "Do I respect and admire this person?" This does not mean, "Am I impressed by this person?" We are impressed by a Mercedes. We do not respect someone because they own a Mercedes. You should be impressed by qualities of creativity, loyalty, determination, etc. Also ask: "Do I trust this person?" This also means, "Is he/she emotionally stable? Do I feel I can rely on him/her?"
#7. You pick the wrong person because you choose someone with whom you don't feel emotionally safe.
Ask yourself the following questions: Do I feel calm, peaceful and relaxed with this person? Can I fully be myself and express myself with this person? Does this person make me feel good about myself? Do you have a really close friend who does make you feel this way? Make sure the person you marry makes you feel the same way! Are you afraid of this person in any way? You should not feel you need to monitor what you say because you are afraid of how the other person will view it. If you're afraid to express your feelings and opinions openly, there's a problem with the relationship. Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change you. Another aspect of feeling safe is that you don't feel the other person is trying to control you. Controlling behaviors are a sign of an abusive person. Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change you. There's a big difference between "controlling" and "making suggestions." A suggestion is made for your benefit; a control statement is made for their benefit.

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#6. 因为您没有与这个人的更加深刻的情感连接您选错误人。
To评估是否您有更加深刻的情感连接，要求： “我尊敬并且敬佩这个人？” 这不意味， “是我由这个人铭记了？” 我们由默西迪丝打动。 我们不尊敬某人，因为他们拥有默西迪丝。 您应该由创造性、忠诚、决心等等的质量打动。 并且要求： “I信任这个人？” 这也手段， “他或她是否是情感地稳定的？ 我感到我可以依靠他或她？”
#7. 您选错误人，因为您选择某人与谁您不感到情感地安全。
Ask以下问题： 我是否感到镇静，平安和轻松与这个人？ 我充分地是我自己和可以自我表达有这个人的？ 这个人是否使我感觉良好关于我自己？ 您是否有使您感觉这样的一个真正地亲密的朋友？ 确定您与结婚的人使您感觉同一个方式! 您是否是这个人在任何情况下？ 您不应该感觉您需要监测什么您说，因为您害怕另一个人怎样将观看它。 如果您害怕公开表达您的感觉和看法，有关系的一个问题。 是在寻找总是设法改变您的人。 感觉保险柜的另一个方面是您不感到另一个人设法控制您。 控制行为是一个虐待人的标志。 是在寻找总是设法改变您的人。 有在“控制”和“提出建议之间的一个大区别”。 建议为您的好处提出; 控制语句为他们的好处发表。