Question

My grandma's life英语作文

Answer 1

To us students, marriage seems mysterious and holy because we have no experience at all. However, we may have some unspoken and unconscious expectations about married life, which formed in our childhood and teen years as we watched our parents’ marriage and absorbed some concepts of the images of husband or wife. These expectations, to some extent, decide what kind of marriage we want to choose. More specifically speaking, they are the standards of our imaginary marriage.
When I was a child, my parents often took me to visit my grandpa who refused to move to live with us after my grandma’s death. I was confused about his reason that he feared that my grandma would feel lonely. He believed that my grandma never left that house. My father told me that my grandparents lived a hard life when they were young, but they never complained about life. At that time, I knew that they have an ideal marriage, and my grandma must be a perfect woman although I had never seen her.
When I get older, I still remember that my grandpa said a profound sentence to instruct my parents how to deal with marriage. The sentence goes that,” Don’t be harsh on each other. And the less you expect, the more you will own in return.”
However, my parents turned out to be bad students. They quarreled a

lot because of trivialities in daily life. In a long period, I was upset and unhappy for their endless even boring quarrels. I really couldn’t figure out how they should be so childish when they have become adults. I thought that I would become a child from one-parent family sooner or later. Though my mom always said to me that they just got used to quarreling with each other and it’s nothing to worry about, I saw her words as a way to comfort my young mind. Until a heavy accident happened to my father I had known that they loved each other deeply. I intentionally asked my father, who is a speechless person, “Don’t you have anything to say to thank for my mom’s half a year’s sweat and tears. He replied,” We are not rich and we quarreled a lot, but we are happy to have each other.” This simple sentence touched me to cry. At this moment, I am not going to say my parents have an ideal marriage. I just wonder that this kind of traditional marriage values whether still conforms to the standard of modern people.
The current world we live in is a place where a growing number of people are pursuing high level material life. It’s difficult to find a right person. And the standard of many young girls finding a husband is “tall”, “rich” and “handsome”. Meanwhile, those girls who are “white”, “rich” and “beautiful” have been stamped out by ideal wives. The improvement of material life changes us a lot, including our marriage values. I won’t judge anyone’s view of an ideal marriage, because everyone has right to

choose his way of life. I just want to give some advice to those people who follow suit that be true to yourself and not trade your marriage for so-called happiness. In this way, it’s impossible for you to build an ideal marriage.
Marriage is not a kind of good on sale. She is like a mirror. If you cheat on her, you will be cheated in return. Until now, I’m still not sure what my ideal marriage would be like. It may be like my grandparents’, my parents’ or someone else’s.