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请英语高手帮我翻译一下这文章，谢谢！

So what have I done about it? Well it's still a practicing effort, but I don't just listen to what a man says. I look to see the connection in a man's actions. Are they putting as much of an effort into the relationship? Do I feel that they really feel what they say they are feeling? And to a fault, I am skeptical at best that they truly mean what they say. Our best ally is our gut feeling – and we are very guilty of ignoring it. When we ignore it we are destined to get hurt.

I've seen women that only give as much as they receive from a man, they never share more than what is shared with them, and they never let a man know how they truly feel. I am not suggesting that is the solution, but to a degree there is something to be said for it. Personally, I can't do that.

I know only one way to be – up front, open, and loving. To hold back makes me think I am robbing myself of the full experience of sharing with a man – it feels like betrayal. But the catch 22 is I am much more vulnerable to being hurt. As one of my friends says to me – you'll learn after you've been hurt a 100 times. Well I never claimed to be a quick learner – but a 100? I don't think one's heart can bear that much hurt.

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那么，我为此做了什么呢？那还只是一个实践性的努力，但我并不只是听一个人说的事情。我观察这个人说与做的联系。他们真的为这种关系作出那么多努力了么？我觉得他们真的是像他们所说的感受那样感受的么？另外，对于错误，我是一个（对他们是否真的像他们说的那样）的怀疑论者。我们最好的同盟是我们的实在感受——当我们忽略这一点时我们会有罪恶感。当我们忽略自己的真实感受时，我们是注定会受到伤害的。
我曾经见过，有的女人只是男人对她们付出多少，她们就回报多少，她们从不与人分享别人与他们分享的。并且，她们也从不让男人知道自己的真实感受。我并没有说这就是解决方法，但在某种程度上，这是值得说道说道的。就我个人来讲，我不会那么做的。
我只知道一种好方法，就是——主动，开放，并去爱别人。退缩，使我感觉是我自己在阻止自己完全感觉到与人分享的快乐——感觉像是背叛。....但这个catch 22是我感觉我自己更容易受到伤害。就像我一个朋友对我说的：你被伤害100次后，你就会学到些东西。但是，100次？呵，我可不认为谁的心脏可以受这么大刺激。
注解：catch 22:Catch-22 is a satirical, historical fiction, theatre production by the American author Joseph Heller, first produced in 1971.
对不起我很慢。。而且非机译。。所以有可能会有错，也参考一下别人的答案吧。。